25 March 2003

So Alec, as a west coast person who has lived on the east coast for a while now I'd like to know you're opinion on an east coast-west coast stereotype. Someone was talking the other month (i forget who or why) about how on the west coast everyone is friendly, but no one is close. That in New York City you are not friendly to strangers and often downright hostile, but the few people you do let inside the circle you know have your back and will put their own neck on the line when you really need it, while in the bay area everyone is nice to you but no one is willing to go out on a limb for anyone else. I was reminded of this the other day at a theater party, where one of the girls at the party had to get home that night because she was flying out the next morning, and the person driving her car decided not to drive back cause he'd been drinking and just crash there that night, so she needed to find a ride home. There was a car full of people from the show who were leaving, but all the spots in the car were taken. Now these are all really really nice people who have been amazingly friendly and warm and nice to me since I've been doing the show and I don't have much bad to say about any of them, but... no one gave up their seat for this friend of theirs who needed to go home. And no one really thought of it as a big deal. It wasn't as though she was upset at them for it or any of them thought they should give up their seat, or even just squish in an extra person. Now I'm used to in situations like that someone being willing to do something for that person who really needs it, and if no one does it being a very rude antagonistic thing that someone would be upset about. But here it was just sort of like "yeah i hope you get a ride back" and everyone thinking everyone was being nice whereas I thought people were being awful. What really surprised me was that no one thought it was a big deal... Do you agree with this as a west coast-east coast difference Alec? Or am I just combining someone else's misconception, one story, and projecting my subconcious anger at Laura onto an entire coast?

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