Ack, speaking of rape Ampersand has a truly depressing post on a recent study saying that 13% of wives have been forced to have sex by violence (9%) or threat of violence (4%) by their husbands (rape by any reasonable person's definition). I haven't checked into it myself, cause the journal doesn't seem to have an online version (at least not one that any of the UCs subscribes to), but Amp has a bunch of the details on what questions were asked and it looks pretty legit.