I just made an important observation in morals. When it comes to interacting with people there are two options and it is crucial that if you do less of one you have to do more of the other:

a) are sufficiently honest that people have enough information soon enough to watch out for their own interests.
or
b) you have to genuinely care about how things affect them and try hard not to have something bad happen, and take responsibility if it does.

lowering one without changing the other is most of what hurts people.

Anyway, enough moralizing for the day.