To answer Haiwen more directly: I couldn't have done half of what I did this year if I'd had to spend time catching, flattering and worrying about some girl, however pleasant, who would no doubt insist on hanging about all the time. This may sound absurd, but I almost prefer the loose ends and unfinished projects of this year to the equally exhausting work of pursuing some random romantic prospect when my heart isn't in it. I want to be surprised by love, but it hasn't happened yet. Enough of pursuit; I want to be an immovable object, and have love come to me.